Take a moment and think of all of the things that you believe to be true. Now, think of all of the times that some of your beliefs have been proven incorrect or misplaced. A lot of our issues as humans, with regards to attaining our goals and our ideal selves, is a result of holding onto beliefs that aren’t congruent with those goals or that vision of our ideal self. A belief doesn’t mean that something is absolutely true. A belief is an acceptance that a statement is true or that something exists. Even if you aren’t able to remember beliefs that you have personally had that turn out to be incorrect, I am sure you can think of someone else’s beliefs that seem wrong or illogical. For a long time people believed that the Earth was the center of our solar system, not the sun. There are people that believe that the Earth is flat, even though science has done a good job of proving the Earth is an oblate spheroid. 

Now think of beliefs that you have that are specific to your goals, your vision of yourself, and anything else that pertains to your daily life. Maybe you believe that you can’t lose weight because you have a slow metabolism. How about the belief that you should eat cereal for breakfast. You may have heard women talk about getting bulky muscles if they lift heavy weights. There are thousands of beliefs that could be listed. The point is that all of these are beliefs, not universal, unalterable facts. In most cases, such beliefs cause more problems than they help.

You may have a slow metabolism, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t lose weight. It is merely a circumstance of your present health that needs to be addressed. In most cases, cereal is a less than ideal form of breakfast for a bunch of nutritional and health reasons. It is very hard for women to get bulky by lifting heavy weights because they don’t have the necessary hormones to grow lots of muscle mass. There are exceptions to everything, but there are some ideas that apply the majority of the time for the majority of people.

The first step is to take some time and evaluate the beliefs you have. Write them down, and then think about how accurate those beliefs are. Do your beliefs apply universally, or can you find some instances where certain of your beliefs may not always be true? Throughout your day, pay attention for any internal dialogue that establishes a belief about something that happens. After work you may think, I don’t have the energy to go to the gym. Is that true, or is that your perception, a belief? Again, the first step in this process is to bring awareness to your beliefs and to realize that in a lot of instances, those beliefs cause more harm than good.

Once you are aware of your beliefs, you can begin to reshape them to better serve you, your goals, and the attainment of your ideal self.